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The reason women are turning you down for casual sex seems to be that, for one thing, a lot of you are calling them sluts afterward. Also, a lot of you aren’t bothering to try to be good in bed.
Terri Conley, professor of psychology and women’s studies at the University of Michigan ( link )
The truth is, everyone likes to look down on someone. If your favorites are all avant-garde writers who throw in Sanskrit and German, you can look down on everyone. If your favorites are all Oprah Book Club books, you can at least look down on mystery readers. Mystery readers have sci-fi readers. Sci-fi can look down on fantasy. And yes, fantasy readers have their own snobbishness. I’ll bet this, though: in a hundred years, people will be writing a lot more dissertations on Harry Potter than on John Updike. Look, Charles Dickens wrote popular fiction. Shakespeare wrote popular fiction - until he wrote his sonnets, desperate to show the literati of his day that he was real artist. Edgar Allan Poe tied himself in knots because no one realized he was a genius. The core of the problem is how we want to define “literature”. The Latin root simply means “letters”. Those letters are either delivered - they connect with an audience - or they don’t. For some, that audience is a few thousand college professors and some critics. For others, its twenty million women desperate for romance in their lives. Those connections happen because the books successfully communicate something real about the human experience. Sure, there are trashy books that do really well, but that’s because there are trashy facets of humanity. What people value in their books - and thus what they count as literature - really tells you more about them than it does about the book.
Brent Weeks (via victoriousvocabulary)
I am sitting at my computer screen with my mouth open, because I just cannot fathom how someone writes something this amazing.
I thought I was poetic.
And that’s the thing about people who mean everything they say. They think everyone else does too.
This was one of my favorite moments from the office,
Alice Ripley in The Rocky Horror Show.
I saw this article on my newsfeed and I feel the need to talk about it because I think it’s important.
I have no problem with married people using this method if it is what they truly want to do. A fully committed couple that wants to have kids in the future can use this method and it can work— because even if the method fails, there’s really no harm done at all.
But when you falsely promote that this method is 99% effective and that it is more effective than other proven methods of birth control, that is so harmful to young people experimenting with sex.
Your menstrual cycle is very rarely the same every single time. You’re off by one day— you can easily get pregnant.
Birth control can have side effects, but so does basically every other medication in existence. It is completely healthy. Once you stop taking it, it only takes a little while for your hormones to return to normal. It doesn’t steal your fertility away.
I realize that the author of this article probably just assumes that teens will be abstinent and that it doesn’t even apply to them— and I have to give the article credit that it is clearly targeted toward Catholic married women. But when articles like this float around the internet and I see it being shared on my news feed, I get worried. People need to be educated. This article may say the easy sides of using NFP— but not the constant planning, charting, knowing exactly when you’re fertile, abstaining from sex when you know you’re fertile, and never actually really knowing if you’re going to get pregnant. I’m not saying every woman needs to take birth control. There are SO MANY options. But birth control is more effective for preventing pregnancy the NFP. And that’s just the truth.
Of course, married women who want a child some day with their partner can use NFP and it is perfectly fine.
But don’t give young people the wrong idea. Although I think this article was well targeted for its audience, it sends a message to young people that other methods of birth control are dirty and not as effective. And when young people try to chart their cycles by themselves….and an unwanted pregnancy arrives….well….
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basically how all female celebrities are treated by the media
me when listening to kelli o’hara